Monthly Archives: March 2008

Am I Stuck In The Mud?

Sometimes I feel as if I have to have something of incredible value to share before I post to this blog. You know, some incredible parenting insight that I’ve gleaned from my 25+ years of parenting.

Oh, yuck. While I do have experience and like to blog, I don’t think that I’m an expert or anything.

So I’m going to just start writing about whatever comes to mind… Some good posts can come out of those random ramblings!


We’re getting closer and closer to Easter. My son’s local kindergarten is having an Easter celebration today, so my wife baked cupcakes and decorated them real nice. She also took some Easter candy to school so that my son could share it with his classmates.

Apparently it went over quite well (or so my wife reports). The teachers were extremely happy that Iveta went to the extra effort to make the day extra special for the children.

One of the teachers commented that it is quite difficult to get parents to do stuff like this any more. In a way, that doesn’t surprise me; after all, life is extremely busy nowadays. Finances are tight for most people, and between both spouses working and taking care of children, there simply isn’t much time left to do anything else.

We are fortunate that Iveta can be a full-time mother (as well as being a full-time wife, full-time cook, full-time house cleaner…). It gives her time to do things like this and to make life a bit more special for our children.

If I may, I’d like to encourage you to take a few moments out of your busy schedule to make these special occasions for your child just a bit more “special”. These are once in a lifetime opportunities to do something that will last a lifetime. While they may forget the cupcakes you made for their kindergarten class today, this consistent building of memories can help strengthen the bond between you and your child.

Think of it this way: Every thing you do for your young child — every moment spent with them, every memory built — will make your job all that much easier as they grow older and begin seeking their independence. While life with my older children was never 100% smooth during their teen years, I think that we went through them quite smoothly, and a large part of that was due to time spent with them in their childhood and the memories we built. And things do get better once the teen years are successfully navigated!

I left home for basic training (Army) when I was 18 years old. When I returned home on leave two months later, it seemed as if my father had taken some sort of pills to make himself smarter during those two months! Of course, getting out into the world on my own and being responsible for myself was the real reason, and those lessons made me appreciate my father all that much more. He had built a solid foundation through the years that turned into an excellent relationship once I was in a position to appreciate it.

Don’t ever give up.

–Tom